We dropped off these lovely ladies for their first day at school today. Aren’t they precious? Another Mom posted a picture of her kids’ school lunches with the caption “sniff sniff” and I retorted, Not me! High fives all around! I am ready for this school year to start and more than a little excited for some routine back in all our lives. I’m also thinking and praying for the Newtown Conn today…its the First day of school for Sandy Hook studentsin a new location and building. I can’t imagine how the parents are feeling who are sending one sibling without the other this year, or are remembering their kid on the first day of school last year, with such hope and promise. God, bring your peace to Sandy Hook today.
On the show today, I’m reading my favorite bits and pieces of this letter, written by Glennon Doyle Melton. The way she explains compassion to her son heading into 3rd grade is amazing.
Baby, if you see a child being left out, or hurt, or teased, a part of your heart will hurt a little. Your daddy and I want you to trust that heart- ache. Your whole life, we want you to notice and trust your heart-ache. That heart ache is called compassion, and it is God’s signal to you to do something. It is God saying, Chase! Wake up! One of my babies is hurting! Do something to help! Whenever you feel compassion – be thrilled! It means God is speaking to you, and that is magic. It means He trusts you and needs you.
Sometimes the magic of compassion will make you step into the middle of a bad situation right away.
Compassion might lead you to tell a teaser to stop it and then ask the teased kid to play. You might invite a left-out kid to sit next to you at lunch. You might choose a kid for your team first who usually gets chosen last. These things will be hard to do, but you can do hard things.”
And also, how she doesn’t expect her kid to be the best at anything. This one just gets to me everytime.
We do not care if you are the smartest or fastest or coolest or funniest. There will be lots of contests at school, and we don’t care if you win a single one of them. We don’t care if you get straight As. We don’t care if the girls think you’re cute or whether you’re picked first or last for kickball at recess. We don’t care if you are your teacher’s favorite or not. We don’t care if you have the best clothes or most Pokemon cards or coolest gadgets. We just don’t care.
We don’t send you to school to become the best at anything at all. We already love you as much as we possibly could. You do not have to earn our love or pride and you can’t lose it. That’s done.
We send you to school to practice being brave and kind.
Kind people are brave people. Brave is not a feeling that you should wait for. It is a decision. It is a decision that compassion is more important than fear, than fitting in, than following the crowd.
Trust me, baby, it is. It is more important.
Don’t try to be the best this year, honey.
Just be grateful and kind and brave. That’s all you ever need to be.”
Oh, and the Mom Tip?
Hair Dryer as Cake Decorating Tool: To gloss the frosting on a freshly baked cake, lightly blow warm air over the top and the sides of the cake until the frosting melts a little. When it cools, the surface will stay shiny for a professional finish. Sounds fun, huh?